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I have been through a lot of new changes in the past year. Some good and some have been harder than others and one, in particular, left me stranded in my thoughts, spiritual life and just lost in general. What I was lacking was several things:

  1. A filter of sorts to help me make better decisions.
  2. A list of boundaries. It is amazing what happens when a young man is raised with no moral compass.
  3. A group of men that I could meet regularly that was a model of life-on-life discipleship.
  4. A personal relationship with God that is healthy and active.

In the past 1.5 years I have taken the following steps:

  1. Met with a pastor at our church for 6 months.
  2. Taken a course at the church.
  3. Met with a mentor for one year.
  4. 6 months of therapy.

But these were really just methods to get approval from others. I wanted to show that I could make efforts towards being whole. The most helpful of the steps was meeting with my mentor and therapy. And even now, I would take dialogue over therapy. These days, the best therapy I get is sitting down over a coffee or a beer with a friend and talking about life.

My work life is full. This year I have been to:

  • The Dominican Republic three times
  • California
  • Michigan
  • Montana
  • Miami
  • Nashville
  • New York
  • Atlanta
  • And next year looks to be even more.

So for me, the real question has come down to what will have the greatest impact. Today I found a life coach who would help guide me through creating a new life plan for life and work. But I’m finding that it’s not just one thing that is going to help find navigation. In my experience, I’ve had to be willing to dig deep to figure out who I am now and what type of person I want to be in the future.

More about navigation in the future.

Do you have sayings or mantras or idioms that keep you focused on being a leader?

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There are days when:

-you get some bad news

-things don’t go as planned

-a situation comes up that ruins your day

…this list goes on…and on…and on…

Here are a few things I learned while being “out on my own” for 3 years as a freelancer:

-Each day has a beginning and an end. The bad days end. You wake up the next day and restart.

-I learned to stop reacting and started a new model called “breathe and think.” You should try it.

-There’s a huge difference between hustling and desperation.  Acting out of desperation has not worked for me.

-I’m a fan of old t.v. show called “Wiseguy” where the main character “Vinnie” had a handler named “Lifeguard”. Vinnie (ideally) calls him every morning with the latest updates on the case, and Lifeguard provides him with quick updates. In my case, my “lifeguard” was my wife or a friend. Keep a friend or mentor on tap for the hard times.



Thinking your idea will be everyone’s idea…

Believing that your way is the only way..

Assuming you already know the answer…

Pretending to care when really you don’t…

Giving the response that makes you most popular…

via Ron


5 Leadership Reminders

February 22, 2011 — Leave a comment

1. Be responsible. If you say you are going to take care of it, then take care of it.

2. Be professional. Arrive on time. Actually be early. And be organized.

3. Be the best. Get better every day at what you do.

4. Be humble. Talk less. Listen more.

5. Be proactive. Not reactive. Respond and initiate before being told to or asked to by your boss or peers.

via Brad