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I have been through a lot of new changes in the past year. Some good and some have been harder than others and one, in particular, left me stranded in my thoughts, spiritual life and just lost in general. What I was lacking was several things:

  1. A filter of sorts to help me make better decisions.
  2. A list of boundaries. It is amazing what happens when a young man is raised with no moral compass.
  3. A group of men that I could meet regularly that was a model of life-on-life discipleship.
  4. A personal relationship with God that is healthy and active.

In the past 1.5 years I have taken the following steps:

  1. Met with a pastor at our church for 6 months.
  2. Taken a course at the church.
  3. Met with a mentor for one year.
  4. 6 months of therapy.

But these were really just methods to get approval from others. I wanted to show that I could make efforts towards being whole. The most helpful of the steps was meeting with my mentor and therapy. And even now, I would take dialogue over therapy. These days, the best therapy I get is sitting down over a coffee or a beer with a friend and talking about life.

My work life is full. This year I have been to:

  • The Dominican Republic three times
  • California
  • Michigan
  • Montana
  • Miami
  • Nashville
  • New York
  • Atlanta
  • And next year looks to be even more.

So for me, the real question has come down to what will have the greatest impact. Today I found a life coach who would help guide me through creating a new life plan for life and work. But I’m finding that it’s not just one thing that is going to help find navigation. In my experience, I’ve had to be willing to dig deep to figure out who I am now and what type of person I want to be in the future.

More about navigation in the future.

Growing up we didn’t always have a budget for Halloween costumes. You learned to be creative.

Here are a few ideas from Amazon for under $20 bucks:


But if you really don’t have a budget, there’s always free advice from Adam Sandler:

OR if you are not so much budget conscious, but just lazy…

You could find some ideas from YouTuber Ryan Higa:

Chapter one

“Sir, are you using our app? You can find our best discounts in-store that way!” The red & blue haired smiley-faced clerk exclaimed.

“I don’t have a phone.” He replied.

“You don’t have a cell phone?” Red & blue asked.


“Well you could shop online!” She wasn’t giving up the fight.

“I don’t have online.”  The middle aged man replied. He just stared at her.

Red & blue hair kept smiling, “oh, well, what else can I help you with today?”

“The nearest exit.”

Replied the man with no internet…

“Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go.” -Unknown

I am not sure whether I liked the fall season when I was a boy. When I think back I picture school starting, summer ending, days getting shorter, and the weather cooling off. In high school I knew that football practices would starting. This is not a good way to start off this blog post. So allow me to pivot.

When you look on social media about mentions of “Fall” or “Autumn” what do you see? Photos of leaves changing, bazillions of “my kid is going back to school” photos, pumpkin spice latte mentions…

Here’s what I want to say: I don’t like to let summer go. There I said it.

BUT here’s a list of what I am excited about this fall:

  1. I am a full-time employee for the first time in about 6 years! And I love working at VisionTrust International!   I am having so much fun. They have truly allowed me to be me and to innovate. I am stoked to share with you some of the new initiatives we are developing!
  2. My new partnership with Alex Lewis and Car Window Poetry!  This year Alex and I decided to join forces in this “side hustle” with Alex as Chief Sharer and I as Relationship Builder. It’s an ideal scenario for me as I get to make connections and help with the development of the business operations as a startup. We already have some fun stuff in the works. I am stoked about the impact we are going to have on our community and in schools.
  3. I am writing fictional short stories, an ebook, online and email courses. In fact, I’m taking a few days off this fall just to write.
  4. Mentoring is a big part of my life and I have four guys in their twenties who are in my mentoring cohort.
  5. Reading through a stack of books including:
    1. Side Hustle by Chris Guillebeau 
    2. The Hidden Option: Igniting Creativity to Solve Life’s Problems by Jonathan Malm
    3. The Membership Economy by Robbie Kellman Baxter
    4. The Adventures of John Carson in Several Quarters of the World: A Novel of Robert Lewis Stevenson by Brian Doyle 
    5. The Lost City of Z by David Grann 
    6. I’ll be talking about these books in the near future.
  6. Finally, I don’t have to water the lawn and garden twice a day.

I hope your fall season is starting off well!


Car Window Poetry

September 25, 2017 — Leave a comment

A little over a year ago my friend Alex started this amazing project to encourage and inspire others.

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